Are emotions making tough work conversations even tougher?

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Hiding is a common defense mechanism.

Hiding in business is a common defense mechanism that many people use to cover up fears, insecurities, or mistakes on the job. While it may seem like a temporary solution to avoid conflict or criticism, hiding can actually have negative consequences in the long run.

Are emotions making tough work conversations even tougher?

Hiding from conflict


One of the major problems with hiding is that it can be isolating. When we hide ourselves or our mistakes, we may feel like we are putting up a barrier between ourselves and others. This can make it difficult to build strong relationships with colleagues, clients, or even our own boss. When we are not open and honest with others, they may feel like they cannot trust us, which can hinder communication and collaboration. This can ultimately stunt our career growth, as we may miss out on opportunities to learn from others, take on new challenges, or showcase our abilities.

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In addition to isolation and hindered communication, hiding can lead to feelings of loneliness, stress, and burnout. When we constantly feel like we have to hide ourselves or our mistakes, it can create a sense of shame or guilt that can be difficult to shake off. This can lead to increased stress and anxiety, as we may constantly worry about being found out or making a mistake. Over time, this can lead to chronic stress and burnout, which can have serious consequences for our mental and physical health at work and at home.

Hiding true expression

Hiding true expression

Overcome hiding behavior.

To overcome hiding behavior, it is important to get to the root of why we feel the need to hide. This can be a difficult and uncomfortable process, as it may require us to confront some of our fears and insecurities. However, it is an important step towards building stronger relationships, communicating better, and having a more fulfilling career.

One way to start chipping away at hiding behavior is to speak with a therapist or coach. These professionals can help us identify the underlying issues that are causing us to hide, and develop strategies to work through them. For example, a therapist may help us recognize patterns of negative self-talk or beliefs that are holding us back, and work with us to develop more positive and empowering possibilities. A coach may help us set goals for our career and develop an action plan to achieve them, while also providing accountability and support along the way. They can also help us identify blindspots which may be holding us back.

Successful Conversation

Successful Conversation

Address the behavior.

By taking the first steps towards addressing our hiding behavior, we can enjoy our work more and create greater possibilities. This may involve being more open and honest with others, taking on new challenges, listening to feedback, or learning to embrace our mistakes as opportunities for growth. Over time, as we become more confident and open in our work, we can build stronger relationships, communicate more effectively, and achieve greater success in our careers.