The more your own conflicts are resolved, the more likely you are to tune in with another person. The more confused you are, not know which part of you is which, the more likely you are to tune in with another person who is confused.
And then you have all kinds of issues in the relationship, at the job, or with friends.
So take time on you. Look into your unconscious, study the blindspots, and talk about your contradictions.
It may seem strange, but the more you investigate, the more you will find things about yourself you didn’t know. And in going through it, you find that we can actually get through things and that it works out. That parts of our character can change, its not the the end of the world, and we don’t have to be perfect.