We need to find something that sparks us in a different way to fight our stress. Work on the new recipe, write in the journal, or talk with an old friend.
The spark away from the stress is an assist in helping us get through the rough patch. Finding a new interest away from the anxiety helps us remember we’re going to get through it, even when the skies are grey.
And as you work through the stress, don’t make too big a deal of the situation. If you make it too big of a deal, you don’t go near it. And if you worry all the time, it doesn’t mean you are going to approach it any better. The idea is, how bad can it be? In going through it you usually find out its not the end of the world.
As a mental health professional, stress counseling is a big part of my role these days. To help people feel better I emphasize the importance of a spark. I also point out responses to stresses don’t have to be perfect. The idea is to make it good but also recognize you are learning to be better. The process is really about learning to make better choices and learning to work through things.
Put the bat on the ball, return the shot, and treasure the basics. Even spell it out to yourself: is this worth that.
Further, in fighting our stresses, set limits. Limit is all. Somebody pays the piper if you don’t. Have to give attention to your well-being and by setting limits you help yourself.
So find the spark that makes you feel different, try to not make the stress too big, and your response does not have to be perfect but something where we are making better choices.
Not sure why parts of your character hold you back in your work? For Stress Counseling, Kearns Group helps individuals study the gap between goals and their achievement. Through a contextual counseling we reveal the stress that gets in the way and design strategies to better reach their achievement. Conveniently located in Greenwich Village near Union Square.