There is a relation between keeping your anger in and stress; you turn it against yourself.
If you express your anger, you get some power back and build confidence.
If you don’t get out your anger, you eat your self up and feel helpless. You are aiming, wanting, and then pulling back. You always end up hiding, or running, and knowing we are doing this. And it becomes a feeling of defeat.
If you get the anger out, you are usually less depressed or stressed; it is milder. If you don’t, its your constant thought because you don’t learn to get it out.
If we get too tight and can’t get out our anger, there can be a feeling inside of not being able to stand up for ourselves. And we can feel depressed because it gets stored up.
It’s important to find a place to direct our anger. Donald Trump, the Democrats, COVID-19, your drunk uncle, bossy sister, or demanding boss. Even making a joke about it all helps!
The key is just practice affirming something. Saying what you feel. Then the feeling of helplessness would not be the first thing on your mind and you just won’t erupt when the person who cuts you off on the road or isn’t wearing a mask and you are.
If you never learned how to do it in the family, start small but do it now. Your local therapist can help. If you don’t talk about the anger, it stays. And doing nothing is a good way to go down the tubes.
So this holiday, be thoughtful to you and others and give yourself the gift of getting angry.